Here we are in a hypothetical discussion last night between my SO and I. He thinks that if some kid at school hits our twins they are suppose to punch back. I disagree. I think that they should tell the teacher or whomever is in charge when it happens. He thinks that violence is the answer, I think that they need to learn self-control and that they don't need to slam a kids head into the ground to prove a point. I also told him that just because he thinks our kids are "immortal" so to speak, doesn't mean that they won't get the crap kicked out of them if they do retaliate.
I wonder at what point a child has a right to attack a bully. Do you let the school handle it and if they don't and your kid comes home with a ripped shirt one day do you then tell your kid to take action against a bully? Where is the compromise(if there is one) here?
I'm just curious about your thoughts on this topic. Even if you don't agree.
Answer by kframpton at 6:08 PM on Aug. 19, 2009
Answer by carliemarie1015 at 6:11 PM on Aug. 19, 2009
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Answer by But_Mommie at 6:46 PM on Aug. 19, 2009
Answer by NIKKIANDYBABY at 8:32 PM on Aug. 19, 2009
Answer by CinderAmethyst at 10:57 AM on Aug. 22, 2009
We tried the "correct" way first. My son is a trained fighter, he was been studying different Martial Arts for a long like and at the age of 12 he was training with adults, with out pads. He has been told time ad again to use fighting as a last option, but it is an option. This kid decided he didn't like my son and set out to make him miserable. After the school tried to punish my child for the other kid giving him a black eye we had enough. We stood behind our son when the other kid hit him and he did not retaliate and the school wanted to punish him. When he did get the other kid back a few weeks later we still supported our son but had to let the school suspend him.
I will not allow my children to be pushed or bullied by anyone. Again violence is not the first option but it is an option.
Answer by littleredpony at 12:13 PM on Aug. 22, 2009