Out of the blue, it occured to me today that I would really consider adopting another child in the future. I have a 6 mos. old. I would consider another girl under 10yrs. old of any race. I would love to give a young girl a family. My husband and I are both professionals (he is in education) and I know we have a lot to offer. My husband worries that we'll be stuck with a kid whose background/genetics we know nothing about and that adoptive kids struggle when they are raised with biological kids.
If you adopted, when did you know you wanted to and why? Was your husband cool with it? How did you convince him? Can adoption be a negative thing?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:58 PM on Aug. 20, 2009 in Adoption
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I knew I was going to adopt since I was in middle school. My husband knew when he met me that adoption was the way to expand our family. As far as your husband's concerns, he has some legitimate things to think about. As a social worker I have seen many well intentioned foster families struggle with children who have needs beyond what they were prepared to assist with. If you decide to foster a child or children, be honest with your social workers about what you can realistically assist with. For example, you may be okay with a child who has issues with not telling the truth frequently but do not have the time to take a child to their many speech and occupational therapy appointment (as in they have an appointment three days a week). Or perhaps you are not comfortable with a child who masturbates any where any time but a child who is extremely active is something you have the energy for. It is about what needs you can
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