I guess I am old school. Pinch and bite him back to show him how it feels. I used it as a last resort for my son and it did the trick first time. Not enough to bruise him or draw blood, like he did on me, but enough to let him know how it feels. As for the defiance, you have to make sure the consequences are something he ABSOLUTELY does not want to have a second time. I spank my son when he gets defiant with me, he doesn't get spanked often, but he is MUCH better than he used to be about it. It's not often he does it to me anymore, because he doesn't want a swat or three on the butt. The consequences MUST be a deterrent. At least that is how it was with my son. But every child is different. Some you can use the time out on and it will work, other needs to have their seats reddened a few times to get it.
at 8:58 PM on Aug. 21, 2009