If you're African American, what do you think of non-African Americans who adopt African American kids? Is it a disadvantage to grow up without parents of the same race? I'm a minority person (not black) who would like to adopt an african american or other minority child. I know so many are in the system and need good homes.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:46 PM on Aug. 21, 2009 in Adoption
I'm not black but I am raising a black child. Yes, there are issues you need to consider BEFORE you adopt a child outside of your own ethnicity. There are some great books out there to help you through making that decision if transracial adoption is for you or not. One book I love is written by a black adoptee and the book is called: White hands black baby. The author is Jaya John. I know I spelled the author's name wrong. But it talks about his experiences, what it was like, how he wished his parents had made different choices, what was positive, how he was feeling....raw, intense, and makes you think. Basically, a big "hey white parents this is what you need to know about raising your black child!" I loved it. Of course he doesn't speak for ALL adoptees but the book is so powerful and real. The hurt, the pain, the regrets...all there. He's not anti transracial adoption. He just wants parents to know the issues.
Answer by frogdawg at 6:44 PM on Aug. 21, 2009
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Answer by doodlebopfan at 7:39 AM on Aug. 22, 2009
It would extremely abusive of me to recognize that my son is black. When he walks out the door in the morning people notice the color of his skin FIRST. As his mother I need to prepare him for that. I need to recognize that one day he will have teachers who will treat him differently (I worked at schools where some of the teachers would privately come up to me and talk about all those black kids, it happens in EVERY school). There is also the need to acknowledge the psychology of black identity and racial development. Another awesome book is Why are all the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? It explains it in a way that is very interesting and (again) real. The way I know parents are not ready for transracial adoption: when they can't recognize their child of a different ethnicity/culture is going to have different needs from their own. I love my son, I love ALL of him.
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