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The other woman;;

Well my husband is leaving me for another woman. They met on myspace. He just got discharged from the army an is home an they are together. She just had a baby with another guy. 2 Weeks ago. He spends more time with her little boy then his own daughter. Then he told me the last time he saw her she kept spitting out her food playing around so he smacked her in the mouth. SHE IS ONLY TEN MONTHS OLD. Well to get to my point. I do not like this new woman she tells him to change his number or she wont be with him. She trys an succeeds on putting her son first with Nathaniel. Should i just wait until we goto court an the custody is filed....???

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Ryleabug

Asked by Ryleabug at 7:44 PM on Aug. 21, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Let him go he's a loser!! And yes your daughter is 10 months old. They're learing. yuck.
    MommyTurtle1985

    Answer by MommyTurtle1985 at 7:47 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • Wait to do what?
    midnightmoma

    Answer by midnightmoma at 7:48 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • HE HIT YOUR CHILD? GET RID OF HIM, LET HIM GO GIRL, YOU AND YOUR BABY DESERVE TO BE TREATED BETTER THAN THAT, IT MIGHT BE HARD, BUT IF HE PUT A HAND TO YOUR BABY LIKE THAT HE IS TROUBLE, BE STRONG, AND FILE FOR FULL CUSTODY, YOU DON'T WANT HIM ALONE WITH YOUR BABY, GOOD LUCK TO YOU
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:48 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • Well now they can be losers together. LOL You are sooo better.
    MommyTurtle1985

    Answer by MommyTurtle1985 at 7:50 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • omg im so sorry to hear that thats awful...if i were u i wouldnt even want to talk to him if he wants to follow this random woman's commands and get screwed let him because looked at their situation already she just had a baby by another man not to long ago and hes dumb enough to go out with her and when it comes to ur baby especially shes his n hes putting some random kid before his own theres def something wrong with him...im not too greatt on this court stuff but i suggest u try asking some moms in the custody issues group on cafemom put your post there u should get some helpful respones there he should NOT get away with what hes doing to ur daughter i would think seriously about filing for full custody can u imagine if he brings this woman around ur daughter? if he hits her now imagine that woman around her..i dont wana alarm u but just be extra cautious with him n who he brings around her i would try nd stay away from him
    Kri5taa

    Answer by Kri5taa at 7:55 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • sorry but you're better off without him. He is with a woman that is clearly a pain in the butt. Be glad you're done with it and move on with your life.
    jeanclaudia

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 8:03 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • If he hit your child, let him go. That should never happen. Let them two be together. It will fall apart one day and he'll be sorry. File for full custody and follow through. He deserves nothing.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:04 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • I would have to agree with most of the other wonderfully wise women that have commented here. He hit your child. That right there should tell you that you can do SSSSOOOOO much better. File for full custody and forget you ever met that man. You are obviously too good for him. Don't let him drag you down with him. You know what they say.....misery loves company, make sure you aren't that company. Let this other woman be his company is misery. Keep away from him and most importantly, keep your child away from him. He isn't worth the time to talk to him about anything. The only thing he should hear from you ever again should be through your lawyers or the AG. I have been there and done that and I can tell you, he isn't worth the dirt he is made of, you are better than that, and you and your child both are FAR too precious to allow him to cause you anymore grief than he already has.
    Eco-Mother

    Answer by Eco-Mother at 8:10 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • wait for what?
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:25 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

  • Sweetie, let him go. Let him visit when you can supervise, have an open invitation for him to know his daughter, and let his family have the opportunity to know her and be her family. After all, paternal grandma can't help her son has a roaming penis and cheating ways. Don't bad mouth him to his family, yours, or to your daughter. His family will figure it out. If he smacked an infant he doesn't need to be around your child without supervision. Don't pressure him to visit - just keep that open door but with extra sets of eyes. If he doesn't walk through then that is on him. Leave all forwarding information on how to contact you with his family if you move.  Do not dwell over the fact he is putting another woman's child over his own.  It is really about putting his sex drive first and getting in good with that mom.  Let him go and move forward. 

    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 8:28 PM on Aug. 21, 2009

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