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Where have I gone wrong?

Long complicated story. Adult daughter with children recently went through the loss of a loved one (not death) anyway, she has not been the same since. Lost her job, wants to leave kids with people, always talks about being stressed, gets involved with wrong people. Kids are taken care of, but worried about her involvement with other people. She lost her babysitter today because she did not pay for last week. She is looking for a job, but not sure what that will bring. She says I am interfering too much and won't leave her alone. But, I am really concerned. What is your take.. Do I back off and wait, or keep bugging...

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:23 AM on Aug. 22, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)

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Answers (4)
  • Wow, how tough is that to watch someone you love slip away like that. Especially is you are worried about the care your grandkids are receiving. Maybe you could suggest counseling to help w/the stress. I would worry about her getting involved w/wrong people. peophiles are on the lookout for single women w/kids. Maybe there is a single group at Church or some activity you can get her involved in that is safe for her, and will get her mind off her loss.

    The Secret is a postive book, that might do well for her. you can rent it as a book on tape. Tell her you know she is stressed, and you would like her to listen to it while she is in the car. it has a great way to look at relationships, and to help you find the positiives in your life. It also tells the listener that dwelling on bad things, only brings more bad things. maybe this will help her to concentrate on good things so that good things will start coming to her. Good Luc
    moneymagnetmom

    Answer by moneymagnetmom at 2:49 AM on Aug. 22, 2009

  • Back off and take care of the grandkids...meaning only to the extent you normally would. If she asks for more, be careful of enabling bad behavior.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:27 AM on Aug. 22, 2009

  • P.S. Don;t underestimate the power of prayer. Get a few prayer warriors and focus on prayers for her for the next 30 days. God Bless.
    moneymagnetmom

    Answer by moneymagnetmom at 2:50 AM on Aug. 22, 2009

  • BUMP
    ALDmama

    Answer by ALDmama at 2:51 AM on Aug. 22, 2009

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