I'm a birthmom i gave my son up for adoption almost 3 years ago, and shortly after having my son i was told i was high risk and was adviced against getting pregnant again. Well i'm about to get married so naturally kids come up and my SO is like very dead set on me never getting preganant. (i want to try at least once more) So we started thinking about adopting. Well that leaves me with the fear that my son may grow up and think, Why would she give me up just to take someone elses child? or other things like that. (sorry forgot to mention i have a semi-open adoption) But i was just wandering if there were other birthmoms who have adopted or anything really on birhtmoms adopting.
and Much Love
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 1:29 AM on Aug. 23, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 1:38 AM on Aug. 23, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 1:41 AM on Aug. 23, 2009
You have the right to parent a child. I'm sorry that you have a complicated medical history that puts you at risk should you conceive again. I think talking to your child's adoptive parents about preparing your first child that you are going to be a mom again and that you are adopting is key, when it is right to explain to this child - age appropriate. Explaining that you had her/him and why you placed, explaining your medical difficulties (age appropriate) and that you are now ready to parent and provide the way you wished you could have at the time of your first child's birth. It is an adoptee's right to feel what they do and it is their process they work out....you have the right to allow yourself the ability to move forward and create a family with your husband. It may be hard for your first child to cope with but when done with care and sensitivity both children can understand.
Answer by frogdawg at 7:11 PM on Aug. 23, 2009
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