First of all, you will not hurt my feelings. Be honest.
Okay, I'm on another non-Cafemom board. (A group for women with infertility, I had IF but now have kids but I still visit.)
Anyway, long story short, there was a post about if it was wrong to prefer to adopt a white baby..........one mom on there said that she didn't want to adopt a child who was black because she was afraid the child would "relate to the AA Culture" (meaning African American) and eventually "turn against us".
I told her that, while I did not think it was wrong to prefer to adopt a white baby, you shouldn't assume that just because a child is black they might turn against you.
I explained that prejudice = pre judging how someone will behave based on what they look like...........
Well my post was deleted!!!!!!!! I was accused of being too nit-picky. Was it wrong!?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:14 PM on Aug. 24, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by wildflowers25 at 12:17 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
i think its stupid that you got deleted! and that lady is stupid for being so judgemental
Answer by Anonymous at 12:18 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
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Answer by baconbits at 1:36 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
Answer by mcginnisc at 2:11 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 2:12 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
Answer by mcginnisc at 2:14 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 3:30 PM on Aug. 24, 2009
I wonder if she meant she was afraid the child would relate to AA culture instead of her own culture, which she could perceive as rebellion, and she would be too rigid to accept him and his culture. In other words, maybe she was afraid she would turn against him because of his culture. Just an idea.
Answer by onethentwins at 2:29 PM on Aug. 26, 2009
Some adopted black children in transracial adoptions do turn away from their white parents. If she didn't want to have this child turn away from her then she would need to help this child be a part of their cultural heritage instead of trying to take offence at what the situation really is. She would have an African American child. Being black and being African-American is something to be proud of and celebrate. If she can't really see that then she is really better off not adopting any child that isn't from her cultural background.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:24 PM on Aug. 26, 2009