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relationship/SO advice

Put yourself in these shoes.


You're 20 years old.


SAHM, who babysits from home for less than $150 a week.





Apt lease is up in a week.





SO had a job. Got laid off. And then never called back to work.


Doesn't look for a job, however gets unemployment.


Would pay the rent (before lease was up)


Goes out with friends often-not parties, just one or two of the guys, and not out anywhere, just friend's places.


Sometimes twice a day, but at least once a day.


Spends money weekly for recreational uses-for themselves.





20 year old and SO do not go out. If they do, it's rarely.

Since SO does not have a job, they cannot get another place.








What would you do?


Or even thoughts on thi

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:42 PM on Aug. 24, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (6)
  • What's important to SAHM? Does she want to spend her money on all the bills and take care of his lazy behind or does she want to move in with friends/family and save up and take care of herself? It's all about priorities and what's important to you
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 3:44 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

  • Leave his ass, for real, he's lazy and irresponsible, and very imature, and try to find a Ptime job yourself and get your own place, and choose your men more wisely in the future.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:45 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

  • Leave his ass, for real, he's lazy and irresponsible, and very imature, and try to find a Ptime job yourself and get your own place, and choose your men more wisely in the future.


    Thats what I was thinking but go to school too so you don't need a man.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:49 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

  • !. Leave his butt!!! 2. Talk to family to see what/if they can help? 3. There is assistance out there for single mothers. Check into it!! It helped me!
    My3RaysofSun

    Answer by My3RaysofSun at 4:13 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

  • Well I think you need to sit him down and have a talk with him. Let him know he is an adult with responsibilities-- not a kid. He needs to step up and get a job,and support his family- not go hang with friends. I would tell him that if things dont change (meaning he won't work) it is over and he is out. I would also give him a deadline-- if he does not get a job and start helping out by xxx date- he is out.
    Good luck!
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 4:49 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

  • If it were me I would drop the dead weight and go on about my life.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:01 PM on Aug. 24, 2009

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