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My grandmother is sick and my uncle is a bum what do i do?

He continues to borrow money live with her and he will not quit she helped him go to the philliphens twice. brought his wife to the usa with their kids. 62,000+ in debt. to day i told her if it don't stop i am taking the ck book away and i already supply her food and he still eats it after i tell him not to he is 42 yrs old. he makes me sick i know its her son but ... she is to giving,

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Asked by Ashlee0323 at 2:57 AM on Aug. 25, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • my husbands grandmother was the same way, her son was a pos and she just kept on doing for him, she sounds like she's so set in the frame of mind that its family and you just can't do that to family. I don't know how sick grandma is but the only way around this is to get her out of the house if she's renting it or in some way shape or form if she's not all there mentally try to get an evaluation done on her if she is proven mentally not there they have to have appoint someone to handle the finances. Also, the crappy thing in the state of ohio says if someone lives there for more than 3 months that's there permanent residence and you can't evict them, but if she rents her home you can move her, without him, then he would have to move. The only other solution is if she is really bad a nursing home for her or elderly housing where they can look after her. For people that are a certain age or over!

    Answer by Bluesdawg02 at 3:09 AM on Aug. 25, 2009

  • evidently the two are feeding needs that they both have off of each other. youre not going to change the bum uncle and the grandmother has a need to support him. i dunno if anything YOU do is ever going to change any of that. it is what it is. if you can get some type of guardianship over your grandmother i would go that route, but that doesnt necessarily mean that you are the right one for the job. its alot harder to take care of an elderly person than you think. its like taking care of a 150lb baby with major health problems.
    and you never know what happened in his childhood that she feels guilt or remorse for his turning out this way, guilt is a major emotion and causes people to do things they would never ordinarily do. like supporting a bum. every family has a bum in the tree.

    Answer by jewjewbee at 8:59 AM on Aug. 25, 2009

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