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ttc plans on hold!

My Dh and I were planning on trying for #2 in Nov...well I had done some reading about having a second and how its different from the first (I have some worries and wanted to see what others had to say) and I brought up a couple conerns I had. He agreed that he would stop for a good while but his reasoning is because really doesn't think I can handle a second! HE'S the one who wants it now! I wasn't furious because I was after all having reservations, but I was very hurt that ultimately I had told my friends that I was trusting my husband on this one and knew the readiness would come. Turns out he just wants a kid and has no faith in me. :( Now I'm worried he thinks I can't handle our 1st (plus chores etc) and I run a successful moms group! I never thought I couldn't handle #2, just that with dd bein 16m, strong willed, no napping, and sassy (in a cute way, but still) we may want to wait til we all have a better routine. WDYT?

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Asked by mrs_pulley at 4:42 PM on Aug. 26, 2009 in Trying to Conceive

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  • oh I guess I forgot to mention that right now, I feel like I'm going to trust myself and wait until I'm 100% ready to have a second regardless of what he wants. I'm the primary caregiver and if he doesn't think I can handle it, I'll just go with my own gut from now on. I'm just sad because I was trying to get excited about it. I'm losing weight, getting better about housekeeping and today we're going to the library to get books on toddler sleep help.

    Answer by mrs_pulley at 4:48 PM on Aug. 26, 2009

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