I have yet to figure out why on earth my husband thinks we can live happily married WITHOUT trust. No, I don't even think it's the fact the "thinks" we can, I just think he doesn't give a shit, and somewhere in there his conscious is silently telling him so underneath all of the deceptive lies he feeds himself. He literally thinks that I am suppose to sit back, shut up and get over it. To him, I am not suppose to bring it up, think about it, "feel" about it or anything! How can we ever solve the problems in our marriage if this is how he wants to think? I've did everything I could and the rest has to be met with HIM participating too. He's selfish and rebelious, and I'm just really freakin SICK OF IT! He told me today, like he has said many times before, that I'm just suppose to trust him. WTF. A woman will trust her spouse if he is trustworthy! Cont.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:40 PM on Aug. 26, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 8:54 PM on Aug. 26, 2009
This is hard because we do not know what he is doing to lose your trust or what he is disrespecting himself. I am sure that you have told him this and you need to own up to your self that it is not going to get any better. You need to take a deep breath, get yourself together and move on. If he is not willing to work hard enough to make your relationship better then you need to get out. It is not fair to you or your kids, if you have any. Tell him this and if he decides your relationship is important to him, important enough to save, then he will work on it and maybe go to counselling. If not, you might want to start on your own and in a while find someone else. I hope he wises up for the sake of his family.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 9:06 PM on Aug. 26, 2009
Tell him trust is EARNED not just given.
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