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my 17 month old baby girl beats her cousin on the face then laughs not violently just thinks its a game

how can i stop her doing this ... i don't beat nor spank her how did she learn this i have no idea!!
she doesn't yet understand punishment so what shall i do????

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Asked by docmamy at 3:44 AM on Aug. 27, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • when she starts put her in a different room, and tell her hitting is not nice. say you wouldn't like it if someone hit you. she is old enought to understand things like that.

    Answer by vgiron at 3:47 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

  • She is old enough to understand timeout or the "naughty" corner, step or chair.
    It's a very common misconception that toddlers at this age shouldn't be disciplined because the don't understand it. But they understand enough to know that when they hit or bite or whatever that they get in trouble. They don't have to understand why it's wrong just that they don't do it.

    Answer by 2murphyboys at 3:52 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

  • So much for the old argument that spanking is what teaches them to hit, huh? You're gonna have to be very firm with her - and I'm not saying spank her. But you're gonna have to give her that "Serious Mommy" voice, put her in time out and continue to tell her NO HITTING - Time out for HITTING. All I can think of - hope it helps or at least helps you think in a different direction.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:38 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

  • she is much smarter than you think she will understand "NO"!!!!! say it in the moment or give her a time out.... even if she crys no one likes to be grounded but if they don't listen she needs the desiplen she cant get away with it or youll have bigger trubble later

    Answer by Jeannie818 at 4:59 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

  • well she should be shunned then if you wont show her how hitting hurts by punishing her that way. my son got into a biting thing about that age. i dont like physical discipline either but i did bite him back, he didnt know how much it hurt and i didnt bite hard like he did, when he understood what he did hurt so much, he stopped, i think you should spank her but if you wont do that maybe just completely ignore her for a least 30 minutes after her attacks, that seems to drive them mad, she should know that no one will want to play with her if she hurts her friends. kids are very smart, much more than they let on.

    Answer by AmaliaD at 7:47 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

  • Give her taste of her own medicine...

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:40 AM on Aug. 27, 2009

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