I feel like I am at the bottom. I am 28 years old and I feel like my life is over... I've been married for 10 years to a man I thought was my everything. I did everything he wanted me to do. I forgot about my dreams to go to college and married him and had his children. (He is 8 years older than me.) My life was centered around him.
Anyway, my husband has been cheating on me for years now, but I took it because I thought I didn't deserve any better. He would always tell me that I was too ugly to get another man and I was too stupid to live out in the real world. So the other day, he told me that he was done with me and that he found him another woman and he wanted me out of his life. I started shaking and shivering and breaking out in tears. So I called my mother and she forced me to file for a divorce. How can I get over this? Plus he has a baby on the way with this girl! :'(
Asked by Anonymous at 7:10 PM on Aug. 27, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by UNLUCKYATLOVE at 7:53 PM on Aug. 27, 2009
Been there done that. I'm sorry you are hurting but I recognize where I and many others including you went wrong. You stopped being yourself. You became an extension of him serving him like we thought they wanted to be served. Nope, they fall for us as strong independent women and when we change they don't like it and go searching for a woman like we used to be when they met us. I'm not bashing, I'm just remembering my x saying "you are not the woman I married." Now take this opportunity to find yourself again and to strive toward your dreams in life. As for his hurtful words about you being too ugly for men to want....mine said the same thing. They do it bc they are jerks and want to keep you down while they soar. Do NOT let them see you suffer. Hold your head up high and be strong even if you have to fake it.
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