Continuing from the "why won't adoptees call their first mom, mom?" discussion; How do you go from the common statement "my mother loved me enough to know she couldn't raise me and gave me to people that could, I thank her for that" and "It's the most loving act a mother can do", to "A mom is not an egg donor but the woman that changes diapers and calms night terrors, etc."?
Answer by doodlebopfan at 2:41 PM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by MommyLee08 at 2:23 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by Lynette at 2:31 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by SAMNMAYASMOM at 4:17 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 5:50 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:50 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by funnygirlecu at 8:51 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Answer by funnygirlecu at 8:58 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
Anon :50. No, I don't think that bmoms get the title and amoms get the nickname. Adoptive mothers are mothers and moms.
I guess I worded the main question wrong. My main question is: "How do we go from here to there?" How do we go from "Being the best mothers we can by giving our children up when we are unable to parent them at that time" to "egg donors who don't deserve the title "Mom"".
I hear the "you didn't do the night feeds and the school run" but, I wonder how many people reaslise how many of us would give our right arms to be able to do just that?
Answer by onethentwins at 10:11 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
This question, though not intentionally I'm sure, seems very divisive in nature. Let's work toward healing the hurting...not furthering it. Geesh.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:31 AM on Aug. 28, 2009