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what di i do if i think that my husband is cheating on me with someone at his work

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:18 AM on Aug. 28, 2009 in Relationships

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  • find out if he is, and if he is leave him

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 10:19 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • The marriage will disintegrate if you cannot trust him. Leave if you got burned, get a picture for proof if you can and collect your $.

    Answer by muffin400 at 10:20 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Ask him.

    Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 10:20 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Do you have proof, your question didn't give many details, is she calling him and or texting him a lot? If he is going out after work ALOT, i would follow him and/or show up or ask if you can meet him. If you are able to provide more detail, I will be able to answer the question better, my BFF just had this happen to her!

    Answer by kimigogo at 10:25 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Get some proof first and if he is... don't start a riot just go home pack your stuff get your money out of the bank do what you have to do to survive don't worry about him he'll obviously survive and be gone by the time he gets home let him see only your smoke that you left

    Once a cheater always a cheater...atleast I believe in that...some situations are different though. (?)yeah...

    Answer by Butterfly1108 at 10:27 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • is this your gut talking? or do you have some kind of proof??
    can you hire a private eye ?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:27 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Do you know any of his coworkers, or the boss that you could talk to, or see about an investigator.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:32 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Many close bonds are made in a work setting. Ppl spend a great deal of time together and none of that time involves personal problems like bills or stress with kids or other things that a spouse has to deal with so it's easy to get to know co-workers on a close friend level. That close connection doesn't have to mean that they are cheating but I do admit it can give rise to the opportunity. In the book Why Men Cheat, based on a survey of men who did cheat, the author says men cheat bc the wife isn't fulfilling emotional needs of the husband. I tell wives instead of attacking and accusing a dh of cheating, win him back if she thinks he is. Be all that she was when she won his heart in the first place. He chose to marry you so you are way ahead of any potential playmate. Of course you could be wrong but just in case, beat her at her own game and win him back. Make him want you and no one else again.

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:32 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • Follow him.

    Answer by louise2 at 10:36 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

  • you could be patient and the truth will eventually come out. if he is cheating already then confronting him about will open up that can of worms sooner. i'm a firm believer of what your gut is telling you. i have always been right

    Answer by melody77 at 11:37 AM on Aug. 28, 2009

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