Let's say for the sake of argument that a child under one can be spoiled by being held all the time. Why is this bad? So a child will learn that mommy will always be there when she needs her or is upset or just wants hugs. Why is it bad for an infant/toddler to know that Mommy's hugs are unlimited?
What does it mean to be spoiled so young? Surely a child isn't going to grow up to be like Veruca Salt from being held as an infant, right?
(This is a real question, I really do want to know why it's bad.)
Answer by Krysta622 at 10:58 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
I don't think you can spoil a child w/ affection. ALTHOUGH, i can see peoples argument. Children begin to expect things. For instance, if you hold him every time he cries. Then he will get used to that & expect it from you. This technically spoils them in the sense that it gives them a false expectation, and then they learn to get angry because they did not get his way. It can be done w/ anything, toys, cloths, holding baby's, always giving them what they want when they want it pretty much. But, if you change it up a bit, make it seem as if this is not ALWAYS how its going to go, they tend to accept that, & understand better that they don't ALWAYS get what they want when they want it. Spoiling kids is when people easily set them up for expectations, & once they don't meet that expectation....they get pissy & demanding. This is how spoiled children behave when they don't get what they want.
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Answer by hotslingmama at 11:45 AM on Aug. 28, 2009
I really don't think you can spoil a baby. I think a child who is held and loved whenever they want will grow up to be an independent child. There is this weird myth that we have to let them "self soothe" at a young age or they'll never know how to when they're older. Well, maybe always being there for them builds confidence that they will use when they're older to be independent. I "spoil" my child with love, affection and attention and she's very independent, confident and smart.
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