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How long does a temp physical custody...

order last? hubby is trying to get custody of his son back. His maternal grandmother and her boyfriend have ( tpc) of him. Grandmother is on 8 different meds for anxiety, and many other things. Grandpa is not blood related, and bio-mom is a crack head an in and out of their lives and all she ever got was phone visitation when we had custody of my hubby's son. We have custody of hubby's daughter and want his son back, we asked them to care for him for awhile as he was getting in trouble at school and here at home and we just needed some help. Bio-mom shows up out of the blue and talks them into taking us to court for custody and child support. We didn't mind child support but custody! this magistrate seriously twisted this whole situation and now we need a lawyer to straighten it all out. Does anyone know about custody cases ? need some advice please.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:05 PM on Aug. 29, 2009 in General Parenting

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Answers (8)
  • Temp custody order is until the parent meets any conditions the order put forth, until you go back to court, until you file for custody or until the court order says, they tend to differ. Call the family court house and ask, they are usually helpful. Also, if the Grand mother is on medications then her anxiety and such can NOT be used against her, as others have stated do NOT attack the other side, show why conditions have changed so that your home is better, site sibling relationship (this actually matters a great deal) I'd even suggest getting family counseling in place and have a visitation plan for the grandparents so that the judge will see you are only interested in what is best for the child
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:01 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • i THINK that temp custody is until the court date,
    can you/have you filed for custody
    mommymeg03

    Answer by mommymeg03 at 12:11 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • No. our court date was back in August 13,2008 and that's when the magistrate ordered the temp custody order. We want to get him back but needed to save for a lawyer, because they should have never been awarded temp custody he not a blood relative (grandpa) and maternal grandma is not metally able to care for him she takes tons of meds. They both drink alcohol...not the typical grandparents and I believe the grandma smokes weed. They kids say she has a smoking room, but she doesn't smoke cigarettes. If we mention this in court how do we prove it without it being hear say?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:51 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • Um... I would not mention most of the above b/c it looks just as bad on you as on them, since if they are sooooo bad why would you have given them custody (or have your son live with them) in the first place.
    Go in with the mind set to show how YOUR HOME is good for your son NOT that their home is bad, b/c afterall YOU GUYS sent him there in the first place.
    KWIM
    MamiJaAyla

    Answer by MamiJaAyla at 12:57 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • talk to legal aide in your area
    you can go file for custody with out a lawyer
    mommymeg03

    Answer by mommymeg03 at 1:02 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • I agree, it got so mixed up now we don't know what to do. We thought they could just help us out and then after the magistrate order the temp order we were so confused on what just happened the we felt like it was out of our hands. Legally because there is no blood relation on grandpa's part and grandma is not fit to care for a child how do go about this or does that even matter?The also have the grandma's son living with them and he got out of jail for selling and distributing drugs and I believe is on parole. The child is never home when we try to see him they say he is at his friends.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:04 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • Ahh yes, always your side of the story. Never his and always flame the BM. . It's always the other side of the family that has issues and are the bad people.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:50 PM on Aug. 29, 2009

  • Anon: 50, your such a coward!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:34 PM on Aug. 29, 2009