It is said here quite often that PAParents who go through a private agency are enabling coercion to happen. I don't agree with the way it's such a huge blanket statement, but I will say that it has its bases.
Yet...if you are going to go that far, then you must also say that PBParents who go through a private agency are enabling coercion to happen just as much as the PAParents...whether they, themselves, are coerced or not.
How can I, as a AMom, be told how wrong it was for me to go through an adoption agency when my daughter's BMom won't be told the same thing by those same people?
Yes, the AParnets are spending the money which could be financing these coercions, but the AParents wouldn't be spending this money if the BParents didn't start their ball rolling first.........right?
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 6:07 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Answer by ceejay1 at 6:00 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 6:13 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:26 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
yes ,that is why an agency such as frawqdawq has described would be best.No profit ,no gain for either decision.A place to receive support and information on both sides of the adoption coin:pros and cons of both actions.Then when a woman makes her decision it will be with knowledge,,not coercion from either point of view.The only part I disagree with is for some birthmoms they may not have been aware of what an agency would do,their parents yes absolutely.It served some bmoms parents purpose for their daughter.
Answer by drfink at 10:57 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Answer by adopteeme at 5:46 AM on Aug. 30, 2009
"...adoptive parents are not deceived. They know they are paying for a child."
That statement is so incorrect and downright INSULTING that if I could have jumped through the screen and slapped this guy upside the head, I would have. Needless to say, I stopped reading at this poinit (which is more than 3/4 the way through).
Adopteeme, I don't understand what this article really has to do with the question at hand. Maybe that part was in the finals of the article. If you could please help me understand, I'd appreciate it.
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 7:50 AM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by ceejay1 at 10:27 AM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by ceejay1 at 10:31 AM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 10:59 AM on Aug. 30, 2009