I do foster/adopt through the state. I was fostering a child that was brought to me at 6 months old. She came to me naked and dirty because she had basically been left in a crib. Never held. Never really taken care of. Not to mention she was very malnourished. I had her for 2 years. I thought I would end up adopting her. The judge ruled that she go back to her bio parents. They ordered it on the spot! No chance to say goodbye. Just snatched her from me and handed her over! Turns out she went back to what she came from and worse. Her mom, who was the one who originally did not care for her moved her boyfriend in. I found out a few days ago her mom and boyfriend killed her violently. It also turns out the state was supposed to be monitoring the family but they had not been visited since the judge said to return her. That was 6 months ago. Needless to say I am done with foster/adopt through the state.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:56 PM on Aug. 29, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by Anonymous at 7:00 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
That is truly terrible and appalling! I am so sorry... :(
Answer by AdensMommy1107 at 7:12 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 7:18 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
I wish there were some way to hold the judges accountable, who make these types of decisions, ESPECIALLY with NO transition, for the harm that comes to the child they returned. It's unbelievable to me that this can happen, yet I know that it is NOT an isolated, (although maybe rare) occurrence. Also, WHYYYYYY did CPS not monitor, especially since the judge made a horrendous ruling? Whatever state you are in, I would write my congressmen and Attorney General and ask them to make a law prohibiting this from happening ever again. If judges were liable for the lives they hold in their hands, maybe they would be more protective, especially of the babies. I am horribly (outraged and) sorry for your loss.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 7:44 PM on Aug. 29, 2009
Horrible,horrible the judges need to let the system and the people that are in the trenches do their jobs.So sorry for your heartbreaking loss.We have a case here where a 4 yr,old had std lesions in her mouth and on her labia and anus, she was not removed due to a court decision.A week later she was beat to death.The people in the trenches know their business.
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