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relationship, crush on someone else?

so when your in a relationship, but just kind of. And you have a crush bigg time on someone else how do you get that person out of your head when you know its just completely wrong?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:30 AM on Aug. 30, 2009 in Relationships

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  • If the other person is free, then you explain to your present friend that you aren't ready for a commitment and move on. If the other person isn't free, then it isn't fair to the other person to string the person along if you aren't really committed or find yourself yearning for another person, and you may want to discuss where your relationship is going.

    Answer by Bmat at 9:33 AM on Aug. 30, 2009

  • Crushes, or to use the adult term, "lust", are a normal part of life. It is what you DO with that feeling that is important. Cheaters are people who can't control their lust, despite being in a relationship. If you are not serious about your SO, and this crush is something you want to pursue, then be fair and end the relationship. But if it something you just want to get past and stay with your SO, then remember that it is normal and it will, eventually, fade away - as soon as the person you lust after loses some of the "mystery" or respect you have for them. Just focus on other things, tell yourself that your SO is better for this and that reason, and make big efforts to focus on your current relationship and make it better. The better YOUR relationship is, the less appealing another one will be.

    Answer by Iskkra at 10:10 AM on Aug. 30, 2009

  • Unless you are married you shouldn't have to get anyone else out of your head. That's what being single is all about, thinking about men and checking them out. Personally I'd be dating them both and seeing which one I prefer in real life not just in thought.

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:36 AM on Aug. 30, 2009

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