I am a stay at home mom and with school starting in the next week my dh mentioned to me that he thinks I should get a job to help pay for his mothers bills. Basically go to work and give my income away! My MIL is capable of getting a small job on her own. I see older people at Wal-mart or fast food places all the time. No major thinking or labor intensive jobs. She does not want to. It is being presented to me as though it is almost required or my obligation for me to take care of her. I am a bit annoyed, actually alot annoyed. Any suggestions? I have brought up her helping herself until I am blue in the face with no luck and it just starts another round of arguing about his mother. BTW my dh has talked about getting a weekend job to give her money. This would make 3 jobs for him! He would never have family time.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:07 PM on Aug. 30, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 12:39 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by mominbolt at 12:23 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
I completely agree with you, but it sounds like your dh isn't willing to listen to you or compromise. I personally would refuse to get a job to pay your MIL's way. I would tell my dh that if he wants to care for his mother, he can get himself yet another job and use ONLY the money from that job for his mom. I would tell him that he is NOT to touch a single penny from your bank account or from any of his other 2 jobs. His mom needs to care for herself.
Answer by Wifey2Watson at 12:25 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by jackdaw at 1:21 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
Answer by luvbnmomnwife at 4:10 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
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