We are expecting our first child together this september. His family has welcomed me with open arms and they are so excited about the baby. My family refuses to accept him. They don't like him. He isn't even invited to my baby shower but my mother's boyfriend is and he is half her age. Do I have a right to be offended? Is there anything I can do to fix this?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:09 PM on Aug. 30, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Lovin_mybaby5 at 5:17 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
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Answer by Darlinree at 5:24 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
Anytime that a SO is not accepted to a person's family gives the right to be offended. You do not even have to ask that question. You need to let your family know that you are going to be a family know matter what they say or think. Your mom is trying to put a rift between the two of you in hopes that you will break up. If I were you I would take the boyfriend with. What is she going to do, kick you out of your baby shower? This will help the rest of your friends and family know what type of person she is and what type of person she wants you to be. If she sees that you will not back down, then maybe she might wake up, other wise she might lose her daughter and her grand baby. You also need to think about how she will treat that baby when it comes. If she has a problem with black people, will she accept your baby?
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 5:26 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
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Answer by tyfry7496 at 6:39 PM on Aug. 30, 2009
Why would you even let your family throw you a baby shower if your family does not except the father of your baby. I have been dating black men sense the late 70's. when my family did not except my boyfriends, I would not let them do anything for me. I would not go to any family functions unless the would let my BF or DH now come. You need to put your foot down. If the baby come out to black are they going to disown the child too.
Answer by louise2 at 6:43 PM on Aug. 30, 2009