I understand what ErinHill is saying, and I agree with that, too. If you're talking about women who do know they're pg.
One is trying, wants to be a mom, is going to take good care of her kids, etc, and you have a woman who's a druggie, has 3 kids that have all been taken from her because of abuse and or neglect, etc. They're both pg. The woman who has it together and is trying to get pg is more likely to tell people (or, even if she doesn't, she's happy about it and wants the baby). The other lady is less likely to tell people (or, even if she does, she's probably not happy about it and doesn't want the baby).
They both miscarry. The first woman is going to be devastated - understandably, and her loved ones are more likely to hear about it. The other woman is more likely to look at it like "whew - dodged a bullet there.." and move on, so we don't hear about it.
at 8:35 PM on Aug. 31, 2009