How can I cope with my 7 year old son who has Oppositional Defiant Disorder when I am dealing with my own Generalized Anxiety Disorder? I don't think I can handle the power struggle anymore. I am so tired and scared. I hate arguing with my son, but it takes him 4-6 hours and lots of yelling to get him to complete 20 math problems...and he loves math! I just can't handle it anymore! I don't have medical insurance, and I am on a long waiting list for the Andrews Center (helps low income families with medical issues)...so I might be able to get him in there sometime February... I really need help!Answer Question
Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 8:54 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Answer by Carajust at 9:06 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
I have a beef as a therapist with ODD. I'm not knocking your therapist but many of the kids I have had come to me with a prior diagnosis really have had things like anxiety, depression, PTSD, ADHD, OCD, or combinations of any of the above. Really many more possibilities. I have never liked that particular diagnosis. I have given it many times.....out of a need to have one for insurance purposes in order to bill but in reality I hadn't quite settled on what I thought was most accurate diagnosis. Mental health issues are so very difficult. I believe they are equally important as physical health issues. Hang in there. In the mean time things that have helped without formal treatments: routine, boys and girls club, big brother/big sister programs, you having time for yourself, exercise, eating better, hanging out and declaring a no yell zone/day....be creative. You have to think outside the box. Include your child.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:33 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Tell him that you want things to be different but you are not sure how, that things have to change, and ask for his input. Be willing to accept that he may have things to suggest about how you react. Stay open and listen. It doesn't make him right but his thoughts and feelings are not wrong either. Work together as a team to come up with solutions, many parents I knew felt like it was a battle every day. Get on the same side of the battle field. Instead of battling each other let him know you are both going to battle these disorders and that you and he can gain control. Even let some steam out by a pillow fight against the "disorders" Take turns being anxiety, anger, or other emotions and the other can take whacks at it. Or beat on the bed together. Present a team effort where you are the team leader. Good luck....this is one of the hardest things a parents has to cope with.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:37 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Answer by busymom1107 at 7:45 PM on Sep. 1, 2009