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Am I the only one that "didn't realize" it was real labor?

Everyone says when you go into labor 'you'll just know'...well...I didn't realize it was real labor until I was near transition. I ended up delivering at home. My labor was short (4 hour and 45 minutes)...but not freakishly short. I noticed the contractions for the first 2.5 hours. I googled 'real labor vs. false labor' and I honestly couldn't tell if it was real. I was able to walk and talk during most of my labor. The only time I couldn't was during transition which only lasted about 20-30 minutes...then I was ready to push. I feel so foolish. Friends and family ask me how on Earth I accidentally had a baby at home. I wanted a homebirth so they all think I did it on purpose. I can't explain how I didn't know I was in labor and I totally planned on going to the just didn't work out.
BTW - My previous births were induced. This was my 1st spontaneous labor.

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Asked by hopinforanother at 8:59 PM on Aug. 31, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • With my DD I didnt know I was having contractions...I thought she was sticking her butt in the air lol. I had been having them for 2-3 days before I was induced, and when I went to the hospital to get induced I told my DH to look cause she was sticking her butt up and the nurse laughed at me cause it was really contractions lol

    Answer by Mikayla_lynn at 9:05 PM on Aug. 31, 2009

  • wow thats really scarry. I'm pregnant with my first and I have no freaking idea what to look for when it comes to labor. And I'm 38weeks,this really makes we more aware of evrything going on with my body now.

    Answer by Lovin_mybaby5 at 9:25 PM on Aug. 31, 2009

  • That's not scary, its awesome! Some women just have an easier time then others. With my second, I had BH contractions all the time, so when "real" labor started, I really didn't notice. The only intense part of my labor was the last 2 hours! It was great! I had a planned homebirth, and I felt way less stressed then my previous hospital birth. I know that helped so much, because if I was planning another hospital birth, I would have been stressed about when to actually leave. Next time just plan a homebirth! You know you can do it now! :)

    Answer by squish at 12:19 AM on Sep. 1, 2009

  • Wow that sounds amazing, with my labors there was no comparison to anything else, they were just definitely real contractions. I really envy you! I'm not saying they must have hurt less than anyone else, I think you have a higher pain threshold and think it's awesome.

    Congratulations on your baby.

    Answer by mommatomanyy at 7:02 AM on Sep. 1, 2009

  • I didn't realize I was in labor with my first child. I, too, listened to everyone who said "You'll just know." I had a weird feeling in my stomach most of the day but it didn't hurt. It was more annoying then anything. When I told people about it they said it wasn't real labor because I wasn't in any pain. I was only 36 weeks so I figured it was just false labor. When DH came home from work I told him and he started timing them and it turn out they were contractions and they were 3-6 minutes apart. We called my doctor and he said to come in just to get checked out. The nurse in L&D said I'd probably be sent home because I wasn't in pain. When my doctor checked me I was 8cm dialated.

    With my other 2 labors I knew I was in labor but they both went very fast. I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant and get nervous with every cramp. lol Hoping to make it to the hospital in time.

    Answer by _Momof3_ at 11:54 AM on Sep. 1, 2009

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