I feel so awful. Things have been escalated way too far with my 3 year old son. His behavior seems out of control at times and I've tried to be consistent in every method of discipline and also every form of positive reinforcement and nothing seems to work. My husband thinks that we need to just be harder on him to get him to behave, but I disagree. I had a huge blow out that was entirely uncalled for with my son yesterday. He absolutely refused to stay in his bed and take his nap. I ended up spanking him, yelling at him, taking every single toy out of his room, shutting his door, just everything awful. None of it worked and it was unnecessary on my part. I really don't know what will work, but losing my temper and getting out of control is not the answer. I felt like such a bully afterwards. I apologized and we talked when he woke up and he seemed unphased, but how could he be? I was just mean. What do I do now?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:33 PM on Aug. 31, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by rachel92782 at 11:47 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Answer by toriandgrace at 11:40 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:46 PM on Aug. 31, 2009
Answer by jessa1091 at 2:23 AM on Sep. 1, 2009
Answer by LindaClement at 11:37 AM on Sep. 1, 2009
Being consistent isn't doing it for 3 days and expecting magic. If you have been changing up more frequently then every few weeks hes confused. The biggest thing is don't lose you're cool. Yelling, spanking just gives them power IMO. But if you stay calm and keep up with the SAME consequences for misbehavior it should get better. Also kids schedules change, he might not be tired. Maybe quiet time in his room would be more appropriate for him. I can tell you when my 3year old acts up he goes directly to his room, if he comes out I lock the door ( I flipped it) and no it's not 3 mins. it's more like 10-15 AFTER he chills out if hes throwing a fit.
Answer by AnnaBright at 12:26 PM on Sep. 1, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:15 PM on Sep. 1, 2009