My fiances daughter is 4.5 years old. My fiance had a one night stand with someone he did not know, she ends up pregnant, dna test, my fiance takes his daughter 50% of the time... When she is 1 yr old her mother starts becoming more and more absent, one night CPS shows up at my F's door, they found the baby in a crack house with the mom sleeping next to a large bag of speed. The mother was suppose to complete drug treatment in order to see the baby. 3.5 years have past and she has not seen my f's daughter, she calls to talk to her but he doesnt let her, it has damaged the lil girl enough already, She now calls me her mom, i have embraced it. I feel if her bio mom really wanted her back in her life she'd do everything in her power, she is supposedly clean now, she is also very young. Im 25 shes younger than me. Anyway, What do you think? Do you think she deserves to see her daughter again? I feel yes and no...
Asked by Anonymous at 7:30 PM on Sep. 2, 2009 in General Parenting
I have seen this same question asked when a woman wants to know if she should let her drug infested ex see their child. 99.9% of the time everyone chimes in "hell no, he is a deadbeat, he should pay child support, you don't need that and neither does your baby." So why does the mom get special treatment just because she gave birth to the child? She is a lousy mother who cannot put her child first. End of story. If you are able and willing to love that little girl as if you gave birth to her and she calls you mom, then so be it! You are her mom! The mom needs to be able to stay clean for at least 6 months and show she is in treatment along with trying to improve herself. She is the one who messed up. You and your fiance are the parents so you two do what you feel is right and in the best interests of your daughter.
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