It seems obvious that many moms do not understand why some of us bring up the subject of coercive practices so often. Not everything in adoption is simple, but the reason this topic comes up so often is not complicated in the least.
Coercion is an important topic that many people do not seem to accept is real or understand. A decision that is coerced is one that may likely be regretted later on. For those of us who have experienced coercive tactics or know many others who have, we believe that this issue is important and needs to be discussed. As long as coercion in adoption continues, we will continue to talk about it and try to educate others. Coercion is one of the most important issues in adoption. I certainly will not stop talking about it because someone tells me that I should.
Answer by randi1978 at 12:52 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 1:41 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by gdiamante at 2:13 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by randi1978 at 2:32 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Well it is coercion as a backhanded compliment is not really a compliment. It tells pregnant women that they are selfish to keep their child ,they should be giving this gift to this childless couple so the childless couple can have a child. That you as the mother of this child shows them how much you love the child by having the child adopted. These are too blanket of statements to apply to all expectant women considering adoption. It is not selfish to want to keep your child and not having your child put up for adoption is also loving nor should babiesbe gifts for childless couples.There are of course exceptions.But I understand your interpretation and the woman that gave you up is very lucky to have you think of her that way.You also are very warm.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:40 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
cont so time for bed .The whole sentence is you are very warm towards your birthmother and that is how it should be.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:46 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:29 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Do you understand that women who find themselves in a position to even be considering adoptions aren't very good with decision making or fighting coercion in the first place. That is how they got pregnant. Women who understand the consequences of their actions don't lie down with dirtbags who abandon them when they announce they are pregnant.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:10 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:56 AM on Sep. 3, 2009
Answer by ceejay1 at 11:32 AM on Sep. 3, 2009