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Is it okay to date while you're separated?

What's your opinion on dating during a marital separation? Is it a good way to gain perspective, or just plain old cheating? Could enough good come from this to justify the amount of hurt it can cause?

Let's say, for the sake of argument, that the separation in question is designed to repair the marriage, not segue into ending it.

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BigMommaJesca

Asked by BigMommaJesca at 10:23 AM on Sep. 3, 2009 in Relationships

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  • if your trying to perhaps repair the marriage dating someone new is taking it 2 steps back NOT forward
    Lovebeingmomto1

    Answer by Lovebeingmomto1 at 10:24 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • I still thinks it's cheating and way to soon if kids are involved.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:25 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • Just dating (no sex) is fine to me. As long you are heading towards divorce. But if you are not 100% sure you are divorcing, then no you should not date anyone tell your sure you are divorcing.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 10:26 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • If you're planning on repairing the marriage then NO you should not date during a separation. No good will come of dating someone else, it will only cause hurt. To me, you are still married until divorced so dating during a separation is cheating. Even if you were going to end the marriage it's not a good idea to date - your soon to be ex could bring that up in court and make you look really bad.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 10:26 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • If it's to try and fix the marriage, then dont date. If it's a speration that is the waiting period till the divorce, then thats different.
    MommyLee08

    Answer by MommyLee08 at 10:27 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • If both parties are agreeing to separate towards divorce, although it's not necessarily cheating, it's still not necessay. Take care of all your s**t before you move on into a new life. Besides, everyone needs time to heal after a divorce, allow yourself that time.

    If you are working towards repairing the marriage, it's cheating.
    citymama707

    Answer by citymama707 at 10:31 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • Hell to the no! The purpose of separation is to take a step back from your relationship and evaluate it without being "in the thick of it" constantly. It is for the purpose of getting perspective, not to try on different people and see who fits.

    ErikaRobin

    Answer by ErikaRobin at 11:00 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • If you are married it is cheating.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:07 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • If you have ANY intention of working it out - or in hope of working it out, then no, it's not okay to date someone else. And if you are dating, I hope you've already filed the divorce, even then I don't think you should date during the divorce process (within reason). It's only okay to date when it's 100% clear that the relationship is a wash, a complete wash. There can be a fine line with this kind of thing, so you have to be clear about your intentions and your actions.
    PaceMyself

    Answer by PaceMyself at 11:27 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

  • No it is not ok to date while separated. It is still cheating
    BOOGIETHEBOOG

    Answer by BOOGIETHEBOOG at 11:33 AM on Sep. 3, 2009

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