What if you find out the place you used for the adoption of your child has been known to use coercive tactics? Should you go to your child's birthmother and ask if she was coerced? What if she was and insists she never would have done the adoption if she didn't believe what she was told?
What if you find out the birthfather knew nothing about the pregnancy or that his ex-girlfriend that he doesn't see anymore went though adoption instead of parenting herself? What if he decides he wants to raise his child?
In both cases, the parents did not know what was going on. The adoption is already finalized and they are legally the parents.
If they are caring for and loving a child as their own and have formed a bond within their family. The child is old enough to know them as the parents. What is considered the moral thing for them to do if situations such as these arise?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:06 AM on Sep. 4, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 1:45 AM on Sep. 4, 2009
That's a loaded question. The best thing to do as an adoptive parent is to make sure the agency they go through doesn't use coercion tactics. At this point, there is no going back. The only thing to be considered is what is in the child's best interest and that would be to stay with the parents the child already knows.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 12:31 AM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:37 AM on Sep. 4, 2009
I speak only for me but as a birthmother that real,by any definition,coercion tactics were used on I would want my son to stay with the people that had been parenting him --his adoptive parents .A strong evolving open adoption would be the moral thing to do..IMO that would be a solution for an unknowing birthfather also, though not fair to him either, it would have to be the best interest of the child and breaking formed bonds is never good .This of course saying there is no serious type issues such as on going drug addictions and such.
Answer by drfink at 1:04 AM on Sep. 4, 2009
cont.just to be clear you are not talking newborn.In the first few months I do think he should have been returned but closer to a year and on my first answer stands,
Answer by drfink at 1:36 AM on Sep. 4, 2009
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