I finally got it and found out I was right. My cheating radar was just going crazy and as much as I wanted to be proven wrong I wasn't. He called her "babe" "hun" and told her he missed her. The reason they don't talk is because I didn't want them to, so he basically "misses" her because I'm in the way, that's how I look at it anyway. Damnit I'm so hurt even though I knew what was going on. This is the 3rd time he's done this to me. I am the mother of his children and his wife, why couldn't he just be faithful to me? It's not like I was depriving him of sex. I'm even normally super UN-clingy and gave him plenty of personal space, perhaps I gave too much? Can you believe he's actually mad at ME because "I blew this out of proportion and why do I have to check up on him all the time?" Well I always find something! This sucks so bad...
Asked by Anonymous at 8:46 PM on Sep. 4, 2009 in Relationships
I am sorry to hear that. He thought you were blowing this out of proportion. What did you do ? If it were me I probably would have thrown the computer at him or beaten him with the keyboard. If his woman on the side knows about you and you kids that is grounds for her A%# Whippin as well. Three times, that is two times too many in my opinion. I do understand loving someone and not wanting to break up a home for your children that is why I say one more chance but that is it. You have to love yourself too! I don't believe in secrecy in a marriage your business is my business I will look at whatever I want to look at. If you don't have something to hide it shouldn't be a problem.
Answer by marilyp at 9:02 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Don't let him turn this around on you. If this is the third time he's done this, the problem isn't with you. I think you know deep down that the problem isn't with you either but if women think the problem is them it's easier to correct, right? Right now you need to make a decision. Is this type of behavior acceptable to you? Can you live with the fact that your husband will have emotional affairs and hide it from you? You have two choices. You can either fight this with going to therapy to figure out why he's doing this or you can leave him. I wish you the best of luck. Just remember it's not about you.
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