I need input on what to do with this situation.
My best friend ( a guy) is engaged and they have a daughter on the way. Well, I have been talking to him about my plans to look into artificial insemination for my second child. I really want to have another child and have the means to do so so I thought well what the heck why not. So we are having this conversation and he says, "Well I would rather you not have a child with some mystery man. I want to be the father." Of course my initial response is I think you should probably discuss that with your fiancee.
So he leaves it alone for about a week and then today, I receive an email from him at work stating that he insists that I let him donate and that its none of "Sue's" business and if she leaves then so be it...
How do I explain to him that while I am honored that he would help, I am not going to ruin a family just to expand my own w/o losing my best friend?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:56 PM on Sep. 4, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 8:58 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by thehairnazi at 8:59 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:05 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by DevilInPigtails at 9:06 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Op, By your second post, I think you already know the answer to this. You know the relationship that you have with your so called friend is inappropriate and if you don't want to ruin a family then you should stop the communication with him. I know how that sounds and I've been in a similar situation but in all honesty you know that nothing good can come from your conversations with him on this particular subject. Until he decides not to have a relationship with his current woman, your friendship should be put on hold.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 9:10 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:32 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Op- If you can't imagine the world without him....maybe there are stronger feelings there than you realize. Maybe it's a case of he's afraid of intimacy and so are you. Maybe that's how you both have been so close for so long but never got into a relationship. I say, tell him that you don't want to be the reason his relationship fails. Back off a bit and if he decides that he loves you and he wants to be with you and not anyone else then it's for keeps. If he has feelings for you, you want him to be sincere. What he's doing now is running away from something and that won't help him or you. Make sure if he ends his relationship with her, it's for the right reasons. Good luck to you OP. :)
Answer by legalmommy101 at 9:34 PM on Sep. 4, 2009
Answer by rlewis at 12:24 AM on Sep. 5, 2009
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