My dh and I are religious and from day 1 we have both said that pornography should not be a part of our relationship. With that said, about a year ago (when I was pregnant with our child) my dh began looking at porn. He also admitted to lusting over women that he knows or saw on the street and then masturbating also. It hurt me so deeply, I was still having what I thought was great sex with him when I was pregnant. Anyways, he stopped his behavior, it has been a year without porn and everything was great. This morning I opened up a 2nd window on my computer and Google taskbar showed all of the sites that have been used. Last night instead of trying to have sex with me, he went to ratemymelons.com......now what?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:53 AM on Sep. 5, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Lauren24 at 11:00 AM on Sep. 5, 2009
It is so easy to access porn on the internet. It actually gets sent to my 12 yr. old son's skype. I would try and have an honest discussion with dh. Tell him how you really feel about it. Men do not want to be controlled, in general, so I would not tell him not to do it but ask him. In the end, he is a grown man and should be allowed to make his own decision.
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:08 AM on Sep. 5, 2009
OP: I guess I just don't get it. My dh and I have an amazing sex life. Yes, I have seen a porn or 2 in my lifetime, before becoming part of my church. The sex my husband and I are having is just as nasty, if not worse than what is in those films. The Bible says that sex is to be between a husband and wife, it doesn't say that we can't be freaks. I am the complete opposite of boring and we can do it whenever, wherever. I just don't get what he's doing. Why in the world would you tell your spouse that you think about women that you see at the store or walking down the street while masturbating? Why would he choose porn over a real woman? Why was he on a site that has real women from our are that you can chat with?
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