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How do I keep from tearing this time around?

With my DD I was cut 2 times and tore ALL the way down. I really dont want to try and recover from that again, while having a newborn and a toddler. I heard you dont tear as easily with the that true? Also what are some ways to prevent it?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:30 PM on Sep. 5, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • dont push when you dont feel the urge go slowly

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:37 PM on Sep. 5, 2009

  • Having an episiotomy INcreases your chances to tear (in addition!), so avoiding an episiotomy is a great start.

    Please know that there are ways to avoid tearing, so birthing with the perineum intact (or mostly intact) is possible.

    Consider: Perineal massage/oil, kegal exercises, water labor/birth, NO coached pushing, hand on the emerging head & perineum, blowing air Os slowly, intentionally slowing down the crowning through concentration. Be sure to stay upright, move & wriggle your baby down and out. :-)


    Answer by doulala at 1:53 PM on Sep. 5, 2009

  • doulala

    Answer by doulala at 1:53 PM on Sep. 5, 2009

  • my first I had an episiotomy, and my second I barely tore. I think what really helped was breathing my baby out rather than purple pushing. I pushed in a position I felt comfortable with and that helped gravity do all the work (I was on all fours). I just allowed my body to do the pushing when it felt the need to rather than taking it upon myself to push. I just breathed through the pushes and I had two very slight tears, I didn't need stitched or anything and they healed really quickly.

    Answer by Precious333 at 2:06 PM on Sep. 5, 2009

  • I have heard that perrineal massage is supposed to help

    Answer by katiekruschke at 3:02 PM on Sep. 5, 2009

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