My daughters start Pre-K soon and I'm worried about something... One (4) just started playing a sport and on the feild the other kids grab, hit, talk kinda nasty (name calling, etc.), and are often out of control. A boy is always wrapping his arms around her and that's opposite of what I teach her (keep your hands to yourself, don't touch boys, etc.). At church some of the other kids (that will be in their class) are WAY out of control... running around, not listening, making a mess, etc.
I've worked HARD to teach my children appropriate behaviour. I honestly don't know if I can handle them being exposed on a daily basis to this poor behaviour. Does anyone else feel concerned their child will learn bad habits from other kids?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:25 AM on Sep. 6, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by momjoy1027 at 9:37 AM on Sep. 6, 2009
My husband plays soft ball and some of the team mates have children, who are not "bad", but do use sometimes words that I do not like for my little guy to use. I explain to my child, if he uses those words, that our house doesn't like them and why I don't like them. So far we have just banned stupid. As far as actions, I'm only his mom. It is only his actions I can assist him with correcting and making better choices.Â I can't lock him away and never bring him out in public.Â Whether he is on a baseball field or in Target, he observes others and their actions.Â Discussion is the key.Â Not loudly proclaiming the child and his/her parents are bad but in the car or at home talking about what you saw and why that is not okay.Â Explain you are not that child's mom, you are _____'s mom and that means you have different rules and ideas about actions and words.Â
Answer by frogdawg at 10:38 AM on Sep. 6, 2009
You also have control over where you send your child. If you don't like your church atmosphere then you don't need to be attending that church. Find another one that fits all your needs. Find another sport or environment that maybe has better supervision. You are not helpless in this situation. You have decisions to make about which places to keep returning to and which places might be a bit too much. Your only other option is to never go out into public. That isn't much of an option. The moment she goes grocery shopping with you she observes others and their actions. Your influence is greater than any other's. If you think that a situation is harming her take her out of that situation. No need for distress just exercise good judgement on which situations are discussion worthy and which ones you just need to not return back to.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:42 AM on Sep. 6, 2009
If you raise them right you should have nothing to worry about. No mother wants their child to be "bad". If your that concerned then home schooland stay home everyday.. There will be times that your child will test their limits and do things but it will all work out in the end.
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