It is a very long story, but the bottom line is that my older granddaughter (5) is bullying her cousin (4 and a half). I know the root is jealousy because I have taken care of the younger since birth. I have a feeling that much has been discussed within her earshot at home regarding the younger one. The 5 year old's mom is my daughter-in-law, and I know for a fact that she is upset and feels that her daughter does not get as much attention. The younger girl's parents (my son) have not been financially or emotionally sound. All things cannot be equal, but we have helped both families out financially. The older girl does bully the younger and always has to have what the younger one has. She will give her a hug and I can see she is actually trying to hurt her by squeezing hard. I need advice as to what to say to the older one to make her see Grandma cares, but I will not put up with the behavior that she is putting forthAnswer Question
Answer by edcmyangels at 5:57 PM on Sep. 7, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 5:58 PM on Sep. 7, 2009
Answer by SaturnsMom at 7:26 PM on Sep. 7, 2009
I agree with recognizing the good behavior the older one does do and emphasize that with her and how HAPPY IT MAKES YOU to see her share and get along. I would also read some books about being kind, getting along, sharing to both of them and follow up with discussions. Click on the links for bullying, learning to get along, manners, sibling rivalry (although they are not siblings...some of these books may help too) on this page http://www.cjkidz.com/parentsgrandparentsteachers.html Read it in the morning and discuss, before you begin the day as a "reminder" for the day.
Answer by momjs at 11:03 AM on Sep. 8, 2009