Start off by getting a little prize for her so that each time she sits on the potty and actually goes she can have one, whether it be a sticker or an M&M...something small that she likes. Explain to her that potty training means she is a big girl and when she is all done she gets to do big girl things. Let her pick out the panties and pull ups that she would prefer to use. Just try your best to be patient and remember that potty training often turns into a battle of wills between parent and child if the issue is forced too much. She will grasp the concept eventually, I know it seems like an eternity and you just want to see her succeed and understand (too bad there is no easy button for this one, huh?) When there is an accident, just deal with it nonchalantly and take one day at a time, each one will get easier and easier and she will start using the potty more and more. GL!
at 12:23 AM on Sep. 9, 2009