I can't quite figure out from your post if there are three men involved or just two. You mention the husband, the soon to be ex, and the boyfriend and I can't tell if the soon to be ex is the husband or not. I am going to assume that he stbx and the dh are the same person. Why did you give your bed to your daughter? Why did he have to bring his bed with him? So do you have two beds in your room or just one?
I would have set his up somewhere else to begin with or I would have not had the BF over. On the whole, I would say if its his bed, then he sleeps in it no matter where in the house you put it, and I can't imagine how anyone would be comfortable with the situation if you were all just "sharing" the room. If you are sharing the bed, I honestly can't see where any guy would be comfortable with someone else sleeping in "their" bed or the bf being happy with it either, regardless of the situation between the two of you.
at 12:29 AM on Sep. 9, 2009