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what to do bout the father of my baby

the father of my son comes and see us but not for very long and he puts little effort into us and i want to marry him but he wants to wait another 1 year or 2, what should i do?

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mamma_22

Asked by mamma_22 at 11:53 AM on Sep. 9, 2009 in Relationships

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  • It doesn't sound like he wants to be with you. You probably should try to get child support, especially since he is just in and out of your lives. It's not fair to you or your son.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:55 AM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • hes a loser! if he wanted to be with you guys, he would be there all the time!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:55 AM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • no offense but why would you want to marry someone that doesn't put the effort in for you and your child? Do you think that will change after your married? It will only get worse. I know you probably love him but if he's barely around now, that probably won't change once your married.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • i really don't want to offend you, so i hope you take this with sincerity. He doesn't want to marry you. If he did, he would have or be planning to soon. He had a baby with you, if he wanted to marry you, he would have committed to that. The fact that he puts little effort into you and your son is his real intentions and feelings. Heal, and move on to find someone who will commit to you and love you.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 AM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • I'm sorry to say this, truly, but it sounds like he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. Start child support proceedings.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:18 PM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • Why do you want to marry someone who doesn't spend much time or effort on you?
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 1:28 PM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • It sounds like you need to move on. If he wanted to marry you he'd work harder at the relationship. Did you ask him if he's married? He sounds like he might be married if he's not even coming around very often...or not interested. (sorry but that's the way it sounds)
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 1:34 PM on Sep. 9, 2009

  • You can't make someone love or wanna be with you or your son. You are worthy of both respect and love. Your son isn't a guarantee that will happen. Start child support proceedings and get another (better) life without him.
    Ewadun

    Answer by Ewadun at 6:55 PM on Sep. 9, 2009

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