Before I even start -- I truly don't want to hear anyone's anti - adoption rants....We have had a child in our home since early this year. He is now 8 months old. The 'potential' birth father has been out of the picture completely until now.All of the sudden he wants to contest the adoption.He did nothing to support the biological mother throughout her pregnancy. We have offered an open adoption and even shared custody for him to agree, but nothing will do. He refuses to consider anything other than him taking this child to live with him - mind you, this child has NEVER seen him and the only thing he's ever offered was to pay for an abortion.He's not proven paternity yet - though I feel it's the next step in all this.I was very blunt with him and asked were he to gain custody would he agree to a transitional placement so the baby could adjust better...his answer ..NO! what about him bonding with us?? He loves us...Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:33 AM on Sep. 10, 2009 in Adoption
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Answer by Anonymous at 4:29 AM on Sep. 10, 2009
I hate to tell you this, but the judge isn't really concerned about the best placement for the child. His only concern is whether or not the adoption was legal. In court it's going to be about Dad's rights, not the baby's.
We had family friends go through the same thing. They did end up keeping custody of the baby. Their situation wasn't exactly like yours. Also, lots of times when fathers fight for custody out of the blue like that they are doing more out of principle or even spite. When they are faced with the reality of actually raising the child they chicken out.
One final bit of advice. You seem to already know this, but CM has some very anti-adoption members. Be prepared to get some harsh criticism.
Best of luck to you.
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