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What to do with a 9 year old who is refusing to go to school?He runs away.

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Asked by crazymomhere at 12:05 PM on Sep. 10, 2009 in

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  • how does he run away...where are YOU

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:06 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • There must be a reason that he is running away from school. Has he talked to you about what's wrong?

    Answer by mummy22kids at 12:07 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • go to school with him....sit with him in all his classes. If you have a job then ask for some time off so you can do this for you child.

    Answer by jessiesosore at 1:14 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • Is someone trying to hurt him at school? Is there an adult there doing things they shouldnt? He needs professional help if you cant figure out whats going on there. It may just be a bully or something. Try to talk to him. He may just be too embarrassed to tell you the reason. Ask him if switching classes or teachers will make a difference.

    Answer by forevermom75 at 1:27 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • yup talk to him and figure why he doest want to go to school he is a 9 year old kid he cant just say im not going to school and leave thats is extreamly scary!! what if he runs away and gets picked up by someone who will hurt him please talk to you son and make sure if you cant for any reason you have someone else talk to him

    Answer by RandJsmommy0406 at 2:56 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • There is a reason he is running and its probably something very serious like bullying. If it were my child I would switch schools or pull him out and home school because obviously he isn't getting the education he deserves if he is so scared of school thats hes trying to run away from it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:59 PM on Sep. 10, 2009

  • Is it because he doesnt want to leave you? He may think he is tough enough and alot older than he is to have the guts to just leave school. Is he under a high amount of expectations/pressure right now and cant handle it? Do you have a male role model he can turn to like a cousin or neighbor friend. Something is def wrong and its your responsibility to gently get him to tell you whats going on.

    Answer by Joanne28 at 11:32 PM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • Well My 10 year old used to do it. He thought he was too big for me to pick up. Wrong, wrong and wronger. ( I know not a word). You pick his butt up, put him in your car/van. Drive him to school. Pick his butt up again. and take him like that to his class or breakfast (whichever it is he does whne he first gets there). Now this will take some extra time seems that you have to pick him up and carry him, but it works the first time. He will never do it again once his friends see him being varried in. I did this to my son when he was5 becuase he hid under the table and di d not wnat to go to school. He never did it again. Embarrassment works every time. LOL!!

    Answer by Ibelongtojesus at 9:02 AM on Sep. 12, 2009

  • In my case muy son jsut did not want to get up and go. He thought it was too early and wanted to sleep.

    Answer by Ibelongtojesus at 9:04 AM on Sep. 12, 2009

  • why doesnt he want to go to school. is he being threatened by other students or is it a teacher that is making him feel uncomfortable? find the reason and try to fix it. go to the school and talk to the teacher if classmates are bugging him. and go to the pricipal if a teacher is making him feel unsafe.

    Answer by incarnita at 10:03 PM on Sep. 12, 2009

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