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Child support

so do you think that a dad who pays a fair amount of child support every month on time and regularly should have to give the mother more money on the side for other things?

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Asked by blondiemaker07 at 9:29 AM on Sep. 11, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • No, He should only have to pay the allotted child support. If she can not live within that amount of money. She need to change the way she spend the child support.


    Answer by louise2 at 9:32 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • Only if he wants to.

    Answer by Krysta622 at 10:06 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • That depends. In my support agreement he's supposed to pay me X amount/month for child support, X amount towards child care when I was working, and 75% of extracurricular activities. Is that the kind of thing you're talking about? He's not paying any of it, so it really doesn't matter.

    Answer by missanc at 10:56 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • I think it would depend on what the 'other things' were, and how important it is to Dad that his kid(s) have it. Even a fair amount of child support doesn't always cover everything.

    If it's Mom wanting to take the kid(s) on vacay, and she can't cover it? No. If it's Mom wanting to put the kid(s) in an extra curricular that the kid(s) really want to be a part of('cause let's face it, some of them are *really* expensive), but she can't quite cover it? Why not?

    Answer by desert_diva at 11:02 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • well when i say extra things i dont really know what for. Bc she doesnt really give him an answer on what thery are for. He pays 400.00 a month in child support and his son will turn 3 in october. So its not like its extra activities or anything. He only makes 8 dollars an hour and we are engaged and have a daughter ourselves so by the time child support is paid we cant even pay for groceries or anything so there really isnt anything left over to begin with. But i have heard alot of ppl tell us that he is not doing the right thing because he doesnt give her any money on the side as well. But she doesnt work either. So it is him trying to do all the work to raise his son.

    Answer by blondiemaker07 at 11:10 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • well he pays 400 a month and thats for everything. He doesnt have to pay medical bc she has him on medicaid and it pretty much pays for everything medically speeking. plus his job does not offer him any health coverage to put his son on.

    Answer by blondiemaker07 at 11:13 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • and its a very gray area bc his mom is on welfare and doesnt pay rent utilities or day care or anything. she gets food stamps also for herself and her three other kids

    Answer by blondiemaker07 at 11:14 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • My ex DH pays child support & that is about it. He did get the kids school supplies & clothes this year but I did not ask him to do that. He has never offered to help with extra curriculars & I probably wouldn't ask him.

    It sounds like your SO is doing right by his son. He does not have to buy extra things just b/c the BM asks for it. Just out of curiosity, though, has your SO thought about asking for custody? From what you have said, it doesn't sounds like this BM is acting in the child's best interest. Just IMHO.

    Answer by funnyface1204 at 11:35 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • no she isnt at all. The problem is we just dont think we can fully support anither child. We can seriously just keep our head above water.

    Answer by blondiemaker07 at 11:44 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

  • Take a look at the child support documents. In AZ there is a law that the amount paid in child support cannot exceed 50% of the net income. If this is true where you are, then his employer doesn't know what they're doing. As far as your original question, it depends on the situation really, but for you personally, that's more than enough each month.

    Answer by feesharose at 11:53 AM on Sep. 11, 2009

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