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so i was reading....

about a woman whos husband was in the navy and she has a 2yr old who gets upset when her dad goes...well my daughters friends dad is in the army she says she looks like she is going to cry after a few weeks of him being gone.what do older kids do. or what do parents do to soothe there older kids that know what is going on and no where dad is.i think at the tween age a build a bear is just not going to work or is it????

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:10 PM on Sep. 12, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • depends on the kid. my 2 year old for instance, is SUCH a daddy's boy, but when daddy deployed he was ok with it. the first week wasn't a problem, he was used to daddy leaving for training. but the second week he started acting up. of course it was cuz daddy was gone, but the trick is to keep everything going the same. don't change anything just cuz daddy's gone. keep the same schedule, meals and nap the same. only different thing is that you can have them do crafts or something to send him. communication is key also. this goes for all ages. just tell them that daddy had to go away for work but he'll be back. explain to them that they need to be big kids while daddy is gone, so daddy can be proud. eventually they'll get used to daddy not being there, and get over it. both my kids had no problem when he went back from R&R, they were used to him being gone, back to living normal.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:18 PM on Sep. 12, 2009

  • make a video tape of here father with a message to the kid and play it for them every so often.

    Answer by angelairelan at 9:09 PM on Sep. 12, 2009

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