It's just too painful. I lost her in a very bad way(not my choice,long story). She is still a kid and I don't want to confuse her. Plus I can't stand Amom. She's not right. It took so long to feel normal again and I need to stay that way for my children I have now. I love her,but I just don't feel right about it.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:11 PM on Sep. 12, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by ceejay1 at 11:11 AM on Sep. 14, 2009
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Answer by incarnita at 9:23 PM on Sep. 12, 2009
Not understanding why you would take a chance on hurting this girl.Long bad story dealing with her being adopted or not it is not her fault,It is also not her fault her mom is not right and you don't like her mom.So it seems she currently doesn't feel rejected but follow this path and she will .No matter how many nice notes you send her saying you don't want to have contact with her now she will still feel rejected.Guess you can cross your fingers that when you get around to it she'll be interested.I would like to hear your explanation to her about your current children compared to her.Stop feeling sorry for yourself ,direct your anger at the appropriate people ,get some therapy and be there for this child you say you didn't want to give up.Act like it.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:48 PM on Sep. 12, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:31 PM on Sep. 12, 2009
Sorry that happened to you but I didn't say anything positive about the amom. I totally assumed you had good reasons to dislike her. What I said was to consider your daughter and direct your well deserved anger at the right people .Didn't say a thing about if you were right or wrong about the amom. Could care less about her, took your word at face value. My only concern is the daughter that was placed for adoption no matter how she got there .I do know people that were placed and when refused contact it made a horrible impression that stayed. I realize you're in pain but look at the answer it is not about the amom or how it happened at all .If it has been 12 years she may have overheard things and trying to find out the truth about you. Only you can show her who you are not by explaining now but by being her loving mom when she calls. It may help you feel better when you play a positive role.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:16 AM on Sep. 13, 2009
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