I am reading Bringing Up Boys by Dr. Dobson. I had two boys and then a girl... he implies repeatedly that boys have a tougher time finding identity in today's world and that they are the ones that are more trouble if not correctly led. I am finding so many issues with this book. If we raise our daughters wrong, wont THEY be the ones creating new lives and perpetuating that cycle? Our lives as women are very confusing now. He points to women finally realizing that they'd bitten off more than they could chew with work and home. Um... This life is nothing I bit off, it's the plate that was dished up for me. I was blessed to have a husband who suggested I stay home with our kids because I had been RAISED not to. Is there a book about girls in today's world? And should I keep reading this? The affirmation on what I am doing right with our sons is great but it keeps belittling the things my daughter will go through...Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 AM on Sep. 13, 2009
Wow... that was so not the response I was expecting. And I totally disagree with you that women degrade themselves. That is an entirely different conversation though. I guess I don't see much difficulty in discerning what boys should be like... But girls, what do we teach them? I want my daughter to know that she can do anything in this world that she aspires to but I don't want her to face the identity myself and so many of my friend have. Most women think that they only worth they bring to the table in a family is financially and that simply isn't the case. But how do I teach my daughter that, and help her prepare for life without limiting her ambitions?
Answer by CooksWife at 12:07 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
Answer by lfl at 12:12 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
Well I've never liked Dr Dobson for that reason. But that's beside the point. A book all about raising boys is great, but if it belittles things that girls go through then just take it with a grain of salt. Take what you can from it and ignore the rest. I'm not sure about any faith based books on raising girls. The only ones I've read are Queen Bees and Wanna Be's and Reviving Ophelia. Those are a pretty harsh look at the things girls go through though. I have 4 girls and I'm trying to instill in them that men and women are equal. Not in the sense that everyone traditionally thinks of, but in the sense that we all have to struggle to find our own identity, men and women. Life is a difficult road and we will make mistakes, but as long as you learn from them and move forward then you'll be fine. That's what I tell my girls at least.
Answer by anime_mom619 at 12:13 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:13 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
Self respect is the greatest gift we can give both boys and girls. Young people with self respect will in turn respect others and will make good choices. They may not always make the correct choices, but they will make better decisions than kids without self respect. Do whatever you can to give them confidence to go out in the world and make it on their own, whatever they choose to do.
Answer by anime_mom619 at 12:16 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
Answer by lfl at 12:19 PM on Sep. 13, 2009
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