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Married and wondering

Ive been married for a 1 year 4 months. and ive been wondering what sex would be like with someone else. is this wrong of me?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:46 PM on Sep. 13, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • Nope. everybody, married or not, wonders that too. Best way to get it out of your system is when you masturbate (if you do) just picture that senario. I dont know if the feeling ever goes away, but it is normal to have.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:48 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • Yea. So wrong.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:49 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • No, totally normal. Your human. As long as you dont act on it. KWIM.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:50 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • I think it depends on HOW you are wondering. If you are wondering because you are unhappy, then you need to either get happy or come to the understanding that part of a successful marriage is being unhappy sometimes until you get to a new happy time and fall in love with your spouse again. If you are wondering because it is a simple curiosity, maybe try spicing things up with your spouse or something but it seems pretty normal if it is just a mild curiosity based on nothing else.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:58 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • ha. DH and i have been wondering the same thing lately ...so we're gonna have a threesome! lol

    yea yea. go ahead and bash. i already know what some of you ladies think about that. But we're not Christian so those "forsake all other" vows were never spoken at our wedding. AND we are 100% comfortable with what we are doing and we know that if it gets uncomfortable for any reason either of us can call it off. :0

    ...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:04 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • It is a certain someone that I'm wondering about...is that wrong?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:15 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • If i were you i would try not to think about it too much. If your daydreaming about the person and you reach the point where you are "crossing the line" you should snap back into reality. Sometimes if we get too comfy with our thoughts it makes it easier to act on it. Its normal to wonder but there should be limits, even mentally.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:21 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • IMO. .minds wander. ..sometimes to someone else but IMO its become wrong when you stay there...when you nurse that thought into something more. ..we can't control what thoughts flit into our head but WE can control how long it stays there & what we do with it.
    ColtsFan1912

    Answer by ColtsFan1912 at 6:23 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • Everyone has temptation. The fact that you are thinking it, happens..But acting on it, is another thing.
    ashleybgarcia

    Answer by ashleybgarcia at 6:36 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

  • Wondering is normal and healthy. Acting on it is bad.
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:38 PM on Sep. 13, 2009

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