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I got home today and wasn't expecting the kids home from school for another hour or so, so I was just catching up on laundry and walked upstairs to see mt 15 yo step son going at it with a girl from school! I didn't even know how to react, he knows he is not allowed to have girls up in his room, and especially when we are not home. I mean I guess he is at the age and his dad has had the talk with him a few times before, but whoa it caught me waaay off guard!
It was a embarrassing ackward moment, now I am not sure how or what to do? Should I say something to him about it? Let it go? Tell dh and let him handle it?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:05 PM on Sep. 15, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
I think both of you should handle it. You need to talk to him about breaking the rules and what went down. And your DH can join you in that conversation Just because he is a boy doesn't mean you can't talk with him about his actions. If you're not going to be home consider getting a neighbor to be on the look out while you're away or install a hidden camera at the door or somewhere so that there will be consequences. I would also consider talking to the girls parents to see if maybe they should know so they can get her on BC. Maybe it's just my personality but I wouldn't be waiting for my DH to get home. I'd be talking to him ASAP and he'd be grounded and lose his privileges for having a girl in the room. And also having sex w/o even talking to us about it so that we can make sure he is educated about all the detail including his father educating him on how to properly wear a condom.
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