I'd love to know how yours is good though.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:48 AM on Sep. 16, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 12:51 AM on Sep. 16, 2009
Answer by ohwrite at 2:29 AM on Sep. 16, 2009
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 5:24 AM on Sep. 16, 2009
I have been married 21 years and I have a good marriage, but how do I define a good marriage?
Like the others have already said, love, trust, respect and communication make up the 4 cornerstones of a solid foundation, the rest is up to the couple and what works for them.
If you are unhappy then you need to figure out exactly what it is that is making you unhappy. If it is something that can be worked on, then you need to talk to your dh about it and possibly get marriage counselling. If it is not something that can be fixed then you need to end the marriage.
Answer by beeky at 7:30 AM on Sep. 16, 2009
A good marriage begins with the knowledge that your spouse is not responsible for making you happy. I am responsible for my own happiness. The second most important thing to realize is that, as a wife, it is your responsibility to see to it that your husband becomes the very best person he is capable of becoming and of reaching his full potential. What happens when you put the focus on the other person, rather than on yourself, you will find yourself absolutely fulfilled in your marriage. The union becomes more "us" oriented and less about "me.' You will have shared goals and there will be a new bond of friendship that develops. It really takes a lifetime to learn how to make it work. I've been at it now almost 45 years, and my husband and I are still learning about each other and we appreciate one another more with each passing year. I think young people expect too much too soon and have not been taught the rules.
Answer by NannyB. at 8:02 AM on Sep. 16, 2009