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Do you feel pressured?

Does anyone feel pressured in signing their child up for band? We've had one week to have our child test for an instrument, and buy one. Do middle school kids take lessons free in school or are parents to provide lessons at their cost outside of school?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:38 AM on Sep. 16, 2009 in

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  • teaching a child to play a instrument is good for them. Children should be exposed to music.
    You do not have to provide lessons the teacher should teach them.

    Answer by gammie at 10:46 AM on Sep. 16, 2009

  • Well, when I was in middle school, band was an elective --- take it or leave it. Anyone who signed up for band was tested by the band director & assigned an instrument - which would have to be bought or rented by the parents. We'd have band class every day for an hour - just like any other subject - and were expected to practice on our own at home.

    Joining the band (or not) should be your child's decision --- not yours, not the school's --- and there shouldn't be any pressure from any side.

    Answer by Laura1229 at 11:53 AM on Sep. 16, 2009

  • My 4th grader joined band at her school. The teacher came in on the 1st Thursday of school and tested all the kids to see what instrument they would be good at and then sent notes home about an open house.
    My daughter wanted to join so we went to the open house. They had the guy from the instrument rental place there. It's a parochial school so this is all parent paid. It's $35 a month for the teacher (who doesn't work for the school but comes during school hours...she works for a local boy's high school) and it's $35 a month for the instrument.
    There was no pressure. My daughter picked the clarinet and seems to enjoy it. They only meet on Monday mornings (at rotating times so they don't miss the same class every week since band meets while classes are in session).

    Answer by justanotherjen at 4:05 PM on Sep. 16, 2009

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